Success: You Are The Yardstick

I was going to do a post on the Equalism series I posted previously but I’m not quite done typing it ye so I decided to get this out to you instead while you waited for it (if you are of course 😀 ).

Lately I’ve been thinking, ‘What is  Success?’. What should it be to each and everyone of us and what’s our yardstick. People? Society? Peers? Friends? Parents?…You? What exactly do we use to define our success in life? It’s relative. It MUST be different for everyone right. I mean, someone has to clean the streets. The question is, was that as a product of failure or success? Either way, someone has to clean the streets.

The way I see it it’s never so simple (well most things aren’t.). I’ll use me for example. I’ve tried for a nice long while to be the best that I can be. Fallen off that wagon so many times I’m ashamed to keep counting but perseverance and anxiety keep me jumping right back on it.  I used to measure success by the achievements I got (or did not) until I found out it wasn’t for me. Yes, achieving a high grade in education is amazing and praise worthy. Yes, getting a high paying job that will sort out all your financial needs is amazing. However, it wasn’t MY measure of success. It was what society, people, friends etc. used as yardsticks.

I personally think everyone will be a bit happier, sorry much happier if they didn’t use people’s opinions as a measure of success. Look into yourselves and set the goals that push YOU and make YOU happy. I won’t say people be damned and to hell with their opinions but the ones that should matter are people who know you. They know more than others what could make you happy.

Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.

Booker T. Washington
Yeah, what he said…and a bit more. Oh and watch the video, really worth it!

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Equalism: Women

I’ve squeezed a write up out of an amazing blogger ‘illustrated mind’. I think it’s a pretty great one. I sincerely do!

– Sexy is what he called her and sexy she was in his eyes,
Never mind that she had a given name 3 days after her birth,
In one moment her being as a human was reduced to a product of objectification,
It disqualified all the knowledge, passion and experience she had gained and made her nothing but ‘sexy’

“Maybe I brought it on myself, maybe this skirt is too short; sitting loosely below my knees,
Maybe my shirt is too tight, regardless of how petite my frame is, 
Heck! Maybe I’m showing too much skin…..I’m wearing thick black tights”
There is nothing more attractive than a woman with a body 6 years her junior wearing a skirt that was burnt in the 60’s with a name badge that clearly states her name (sarcasm intended)
What did she do wrong….nothing, she was just a woman
 
In a  hyper-sexualised world her body is put further than her mind

She is underestimated, understated and confined to the works of the kitchen 
Constantly having to prove her intellect and de-feminise herself to be seen as worthy of a conversation,
What life can she live when her image is scrutinised and altered by the media, 
 
A man is born with a penis and can rule the world,
A woman is taught to sit quietly and pamper his you know what,
Any bruises she receives is a right of passage and any boy she gives him is a job well done

She can’t help that her body is a wonderland but it was created to satisfy the one and only one who loves her
All she asks is that she is respected and treated fairly when all she has done is be a woman

The summary…it’s hard if you want to free yourself, it’s much easier letting
the world abuse you socially, financially and sexually….you just take it –

What strikes me the most is the simplistic depth to it. Like no matter what she’d do a woman would still be objectified/sexualised by a majority of men.

I mean I can see why men would but keep it to yourself I say. Treat them with the respect they deserve. Women objectify men too but not in a way that’s disrespectful.

There might be one more post before I go fully into this little bit.  Keep waiting readers!

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Equalism: Men

SEXIST!

When you read that word, did you in ANY way think it meant that a woman was being sexist to a man? Hmmm? (I’d be surprised if you did)

Well I’ve been thinking a lot on the topic of feminism and how silly it’s become these days. How almost everything you do to a woman can or is considered sexist but how it  rarely, if ever, the reverse holds true in the minds of the masses. Below I present to you, a poem. Not just any poem though. A poem which I think expressed mine friend’s pent up anger and distaste towards the feminists and penis-envying women out there. Read, enjoy, I intend to get the woman’s side of things on this one

Let’s talk about equality. Let’s talk about what I’m about and what you want to be.

Let’s take time and figure out that you were never meant to be my x+y=z

You think you should…sorry…you KNOW you should but I promise,  you wish you could.

See I’m a man. I’m always horny. Ready to move to that skirt and off that skirt and into you.

I want riches more than you care for and you know what? I care very little about how I get it.

Emotions? Don’t waste my time. You never expected me to have any. Now you want me to be sensitive?  Not worth it.

Thing is, I heard you want to be like me. Really? Are you willing in times of danger to sacrifice yourself for me when with a blunt, the burglar comes into the house to steal our wealth? house? lives? I am.

Are you ready,  to go out and risk life, health and limb to protect your own? And I don’t mean just  protect I mean kill in order to protect. Destroy for that reason or in the name of it. I am.

See I heard you wanted to be a man. I don’t think you’re ready for it. Not one bit. But you’re a woman, what’s wrong with that? What’s EVER been wrong with that?

You want to be me? Lose your fortitude.  Your ability to feel, empathise and sympathise.

We don’t say it enough but we need you. I know I do. So don’t be a man. There are too many of us out there anyway. Be a woman. Be what we can’t be  and we’ll be what you can’t and one day, if we’re really lucky your x and my y….we’ll make one heck of a z!

There ya have it folks. Anger…I’d like to stress that this in no way reflects the entirety of a man’s thought pattern. Women are just as horny as men. Period. You lot just control it better and can hide it pretty well. We have a Junior to struggle with. Part 2 out soon!

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Haters Gotta Hate….Right?

Countless times and a bit more, I’ve heard people say ‘I’ve got too many haters. I must be doing something right’ or ‘My haters just don’t want to see me progress.’ Now, a hater according to urban dictionary is ”an overly used word to  describe someone who cannot be happy for another person’s success or just so happens to dislike another person.” I understand that there are people out there who think this way, with good reason, they’re insecure. However, you have to be successful at something first. You can’t be failing and because someone calls you on it they automatically become haters. Personally, I’m sick of it. I really am.

 

Case 1

Jane: I’m not sure what you’re saying here…?

Friend: Errmmm Jane, try not to take this the wrong way, you’re really out of shape, you’re fat.

Jane: I can’t believe you’d say that! I thought we were friends! You’re such a hater.

Friend: But the dress doesn’t fit you. You’re obviously too big and tight clothes make that fact painfully obvious!

Jane: beep you! You beep-ing bastard! Ugh! Haters like you just don’t appreciate curves when you see them!

Friend: Yeah? Which one? All NINE of them?! <—- too far!

The Truth: Now, Friend-turned-hater was only trying to be helpful and just wanted to be honest to Jane. Friend-turned-hater doesn’t mean to hurt her although that last comment was hurtful. Jane assumes that Friend-turned-hater is a hater because a compliment wasn’t given. This is wrong.Just because the truth hurts doesn’t mean that it isn’t right, heck Jane probably KNOWS she’s fat big boned and does not want to hear of it but would rather live in a world where everyone constantly reassures her she’s ‘OK’ while they’re in a much healthier figure/shape than she is. Who’s the hater really? The well-meaning truth sayer or the enabler(s)?

 

Case 2

Couple: We’re in lovedy-love! We love each other!

Friend: No you’re not. You don’t trust each other. He cheats on you. She cheats on you. You’re in such a parasitic relationship it’s symbiotic and you’ve been repeating this destructive cycle for far too long.

Couple: How can you say that?! Dude(ette) I thought we were friends! You’re supposed to support us in our lovedy-love and endless cycle of hurting ourselves.

Friend: No I’m not. I am meant to support you in making the right decisions and save you from your stupidity where and when I can.

The Truth: Friend has now become the ‘enemy’ and sadly the lovedy-love couple have made him into a hater. All Friend-turned-hater wanted to do was help. Because they thought they HAD to have haters to validate their destructive relationship, they made Friend into a hater. So sad. *sniff* *sniff*

 

The Real Haters:

These guys can’t actually be happy for you when you have achieved any form of success, they’re critical and will always put you down. ALWAYS. In the same breath they will praise your achievement and let you know that it still isn’t up to scratch. However do not confuse these people with pessimists or  constructively critical individuals, the former can’t help themselves as that’s how they view life and the latter are definitely worth listening to!

 

Case in point

El Taco: YES!! I WOOON!

Friend: Congrats dude! Great effort, damn…but you still didn’t do better than Bur King!

El Taco: How’s that important at the moment? Be happy for me right now I won! Wooh!

Friend: Just saying, you may be champ here but you suck compared to the others like Bur King.

The Truth: Fact is, this douche bag, friend-hidden-in-the-hater-shadow is by all means a hater. I mean, El Taco must’ve trained for this right but notice, friend-hidden-in-the-hater-shadow just can’t be happy for him. That’s a hater, a pessimist wouldn’t care the constructive critic would be happy for you but remind you (and often help too) that there are stronger opponents out there to surpass.

 

A bit over the top in my descriptions, I know but it makes the point. People always seem to have haters. Most of the time, it’s because someone disagrees with their ideas or opinions because the other individual has their own opinion. However due to the endless number of barely savant individuals, hipsters and crazy iPhone lovers ( I HAD TO!) people suddenly NEED to have enemies. They somehow believe that if they do they are doing something right. To quote” If you don’t have a few enemies, you’re doing something wrong.” RUBBISH! I mean who came up with that piece of crap?? You can have people who don’t agree with you but that…does not..make them…your enemies! Stop looking for them!

Whatever I guess, haters gonna hate right?

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iPhone Logic – Innovation

You all know I like to let apple know just how crap they are. Horribly so, until they bring out something that looks and feels like they’ve actually spent all the money they’ve earned

Watch out for my blog post on the Samsung S4. I hope it’s worth the release I’d hate to have to start with Samsung. I’ve grown fond of them.

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May 26, 2013 · 9:18 pm

Oh Judge Koh, You Asian Wonder, Won’t You Be My Valentine?

Despite what follows in this post, it isn’t a rant on Apple, it’s a mere ‘neener neener, your the loser you wheeer!’. (<– too immature?)

Things just keep getting better and the year’s still in its first quarter. Well Apple decided to take up a ‘Wilful Infringement’ case ages ago after Samsung had somewhat unintelligently did a bit of copy cat work on Apple but thanks yo the Asian beauty that is Judge Lucy Koh Samsung will not suffer any more financial squeeze. Read it all here and make what sense you will of it. She says;

“To the extent that Apple does address lost downstream sales, Apple discusses only Samsung’s gains and makes no attempt to identify any specific losses Apple has suffered,” U.S. District Court Judge Lucy Koh wrote in her ruling”

This makes me happy for 2 reasons. First, Apple didn’t win. By now you must have realised my somewhat ‘unbiased’ distaste for all things of the ‘i’ category. If you haven’t please click on herehere and here (exits are to your left and at the far end of the browser). Second, it means Samsung won’t have an excuse to lay out their new line of flexible OLED screens which I’ve pissed and crapped my pants amongst other bodily fluids, in anticipation.

Also just for the hell of it watch this too;

How awesome are handheld devices about to become!? I can’t freaking wait! I really can’t! I mean all these patent wars are an honest waste of time in my opinion and that of this post. It’s diverting their creative expertise away from what’s important; creating ‘Pew-Pew’ laser pistols , or hover boards (because driving and guns are too mainstream yo).

To cut this story short, I really would like to take her out on a date and serenade her in ways the law would label ‘barely legal’. If I don’t make any post in a while…my significant other has hospitalized me.

– Myhonestopinions

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In a World Where Sin is Punishable: The Fate of Two Worlds

Hey there reader (however many you are) I’d like to take this time to apologise to you on not writing anything for a long, long time. Life has been overly busy and frankly when that stopped I decided to take an unwarranted long break. However, I’m back now and those of you wonderful people still reading this blog (or at least receiving notifications) I would like to say thank you kindly for your time – and patience. Now, let us proceed to the main gist.

The first bit is always the sweetest, the next one contains the worm' - Anonymous

‘The first bite is always the sweetest, the next one contains the worm’ – Anonymous

I’ve always wondered why First World countries had it better than the Third World countries development-wise. I mean humans are humans no matter where and it should be a normal series of events that the best is achieved over time. However I came to realise that it wasn’t so simple. Some people were greedy, they wanted their interests met and did not care for the interest of others; selfish people. Don’t get me wrong I don’t mind selfishness. I am of the belief that all actions are inherently selfish and the positive effect on others, to no others detriment is what qualifies this as a selfless act, most of the time. Despite there being similar resources in the world, enough to sufficiently sort out problems for both, one prospered and the other didn’t…or refused to.

“To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction: or the forces of two bodies on each other are always equal and are directed in opposite directions.” – Newton’s 3rd Law of Motion

First of all;

How to Train a Child

‘’As a child I heard I wasn’t very mischievous (that changed drastically when I grew up). I was a calm and loveable kid with very little care in the world, as all children are wont to be in their parent’s eyes. I remember this one time when my father returned from work and it was custom to welcome him home. I didn’t at the time as I was glued to the television screen. Johnny Bravo was on at the time and quite frankly the prospect of getting off the sofa was beyond me and besides, my dad coming home didn’t seem as important as Johnny and his escapades.

In hind sight, I really should have got off the couch, Johnny could have waited. My dad called me and asked why I hadn’t welcomed him home or at least acknowledged that he’d just come back from his journey. Now I couldn’t say ‘’Johnny was chasing a woman.’’ That would have been stupid – coupled with previous stupidity. Long story short, I got a terribly painful two-finger slap to the cheek. It hurt so bad! I cried my eyes out.

Now, 16 odd years later, every time my dad comes home, I make it my sworn duty to welcome him. Lesson learned’’

~0~

I got that story from someone I know quite personally and found it very funny.  It also might help give you an idea of what I might be talking about in this blog. Now take your time, a few seconds and picture what your parents did to you when you were a child and misbehaved (and I’m hoping they did teach you right from wrong) OK? Good. Now imagine if they rewarded that kind of behaviour instead. How would you have turned out?

Quite recently in a heated debate about the Third World – Africa mainly – I realised that there’s a reason why no matter how much money/oil/natural resources possibility of real GDP growth, Foreign Aid from Western countries and so on, most of these countries are still, for the most part, underdeveloped – by global standards – and/or highly corrupt. If anyone knows anything about economics, Third World countries, despite not being the most technologically advanced countries in the world, do not actually have to put in any real effort to meet up. They don’t need to invest in innovation or wait long years to see the fruits of their labour in any real, human-impacting research. They could literally ‘catch-up’ to more robust and developed economies and well, be as good as they are or simply be ‘the best that they can be.’ The resources are there, so is the technology. And not just in the economy, but in its legal frameworks, its healthcare system and so on. Making what I’d like to think would be a very much individualised clone of the Western or Eastern economies. It’s just a theory, true, but that’s somehow worked for some Asian and African economies (Indonesia, China, Ghana etc. ). What then makes and keeps a country as corrupt as it is? It’s simple, in my opinion, unbelievably so. It’s a beautiful thing called ‘Lack of Consequence.

I mean take time out to go to this website. A lot of the countries, despite being advanced (I use that term very loosely) are still the most corrupt according to the Corruption Perception Index. The bottom 10 or Top 10 most corrupt countries are mostly African and Asian. Despite their economic growth spurt they haven’t changed in the past decade.

I’ll use Ghana’s as an example. Despite gaining independence in 1957, the country’s continuously scored quite low in the corruption index. The results are partly, if not mostly, blamed on a Mr Kwame Nkrumah (which I think is a rather cool name) who up and became Overlord of Ghana in 1960 and thus began his legacy of corruption and coup d’états which spanned almost 2 decades.  Whatever his motivations were, they were detrimental to the country’s progress and although it took a while for anyone to do anything about it a Mr J. Rawlings finally did. Ironically, he did so with an initially failed coups d’état. His successful attempt at cleaning up the country of its deep seated corrupt ways resulted in the killing of quite a bit of the politicians and judges all under Overlord Nkrumah’s tyrannical regime.

What’s the lesson here? People will do whatever they damn well please until someone or something stops them from doing so or Newton’s First Law of Motion. The only reason Overlord Nkrumah managed to stay in power so long was because no one could make him answer to anything. Not the people, not the law, nothing! He had nothing stopping him from doing as he pleased. What does one do then? Make sure that if a president is stupid enough to think himself overlord in his country, ignoring the fact that he was voted in by the masses, that said masses will unite and pull him/her down never to rise again. Ensure that there are very serious implications for betraying the trust that people have placed in them.

I won’t say, or better yet, I can’t say that this is in and of itself the entirety of moving a nation forward, it’s a whole lot more complex than that but as in the case of Ghana it was a very large step, possibly a run forwards. However, reprimands for unlawful or unethical action towards any one nation and a smallest bit of patriotism, in my opinion, is a very necessary resource if any one nation is to advance and start becoming ‘the best that they can be’.

What’s your opinion?

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